After the year I experienced with Tim, and just observing men in general; I don't see anything wrong with asking for what I want. Recently, while on FB, one of m fellow group members in an IRR fiction group jokingly mentioned a "Side Bitch" contract. Seriously????!!!! My question for them was , why even have it at all? Whatever happened to being the only one? Whatever happened to Self Respect? Personally, I wouldn't even a joke about stuff like that. I don't care how cute Henry Cavill is... Even he with his gorgeous self, isn't worth the damage/humiliation that can and will result from a "Side Bitch Contract." Some women really need to get real and think about what they're posting, before they post it via Social Media.

This is what I want, something different, someone who's different, with a sense of adventure, and fun to be around. The following is my list & it was inspired by Amy Webb, the writer of "Data, a Love Story" and also by my Pastor...

#1. He'll love God 1st and foremost.
#2. He'll love me as I am, yet always encourage me to go further in life (spiritually, socially, education, career, business, etc) & it will be a matter of kismet/instant attraction with us..
#3. He'll like and make an effort to get along with my family.
#4. He'll be kind and will never, ever, abuse nor threaten to abuse me. Even if we're having an intense moment of fellowship, I'll never have to be afraid of him
#5. He'll be between 25 and 45 years old, be from another race/culture (non-African, non-Black): Caucasian, Japanese, Chinese, Hispanic, Jewish, Pacific-Islander, etc, and he'll never be ashamed, nor act ashamed of taking me out in public, nor be ashamed to hold my hand, put his arms around me, nor kiss me in public.
#6. He'll be tall (at least 5'10-6'5"), tall enough where I can lay my head on his shoulder or on his chest with comfort. He'll be in good shape, not too skinny, and not fat.
#7. He'll be my friend first, always.
#8. The sex with him should be so good and so intense that I can't help but blush if someone asks me about it. He should be patient, but yet be willing to experiment and push me past my boundaries (but not too far). I'll come every time we make love.
#9. He doesn't have any children, but he wants to have at least 1 child with me. He'll be a great Dad, patient, wise, strong, with a lot of self-control.
#10. He'll never disrespect me, but he'll also never allow me to run over him either.
#11. He'll be a tad smarter than me, but he'll never lord it over me.
#12. He'll be balanced financially, be debt-free, and investment savvy. He won't be a tightwad, but he won't overspend either. He'll respect my opinion regarding our home, and he'll include me in on the decision making.
#13. He'll already have a Bachelor's Degree, and at least be working on his Master's degree.
#14. He'll love dogs, be able to train them, and won't mind having them in the house, and on the sofa and our bed.
#15. He'll never have been married before, and have no crazy exes...
#16. He'll be technology savvy, and be able to work on our vehicles with ease (like my Dad did)..
#17. He'll have a wicked sense of humor, so much so that I'll want to fall down laughing when he tells a joke.
#18. He'll want to have a marriage, where he leads, but where I can be his helpmeet. It will be a partnership.
#19. He'll be an excellent cook.
#20. He'll be free from drugs, smoking, and mental disorders.
#21. He'll love to read.
#22. He'll respect my need to get away and have some "me" time.
#23. He can kick a lot of ass, and take a lot of names. I'll always feel safe with him. People will think twice about screwing with him and with me.
#24. His parents and his family will love me.
#25. His friends will love me as well.
#26. He'll be a snappy dresser with a sense of style that's not trashy nor questionable.
#27. He'll be able to cry in front of me without feeling like he's a punk.
#28. I repeat, The sex will be awesome!
#29. He'll pursue me, and he won't play games. I'll know exactly what he's after.
#30. He'll always keep me on my toes, and vice versa.
#31. He'll have continuous positive & steady cash flow via his job and/or a legitimate business.
#32. He won't try to Bullshit me. He'll always tell me the truth. If the truth will hurt, he'll ask God for wisdom as to how to break the news to me.
#33. He'll never cheat on me, nor have an emotional affair.


Ok, that's it. This is the list. This is what I want, and This is what I'm expecting.